AD OF THE YEAR: PLAYSTATION, by Taylor Marsh
It’s not what you think.
For those not seeing it, I explain…
I’m so glad I didn’t have children.
Every Mother’s Day affirms it.
I’ve never understood the desperate fertility treatment dance so many women go through in order to have children that they can’t conceive naturally. It’s a miracle it’s an option, but the torture of it all. But when I found out my niece and her husband finally conceived we cracked a bottle of Tequila and did shots in their honor.
Some girls want a different life.
When I grew up it was an expectation you would get married and have children. It’s what women did. I refused, wearing the childree stigma from those days as a badge of independent bravery. Because when the modern age of feminism blasted off Phyllis Schlafly’s harping was a loud noise in our ear.
Thankfully, it’s not so anymore.
As a kid, the doll I loved was Barbie. She was independent, had lots of clothes and cool car and dream house, though I wasn’t interested at all in Ken. What did Barbie need him for anyway? Her perfect body didn’t faze me. All I saw was her freedom. She wasn’t one of those loathsome dolls that I was expected to pretend feed, pantomime diaper changing and roll around in a fake stroller, which was obviously meant to prepare me for something I always knew I didn’t want.
When I got a Thumbelina for Christmas one year, she came in a pretty basket all cuddled up. My interest lasted about a second.
I love being around little people. Their reaction to me is entertaining, because I don’t treat them like children. The encounters are inevitably magical for me, but it’s a vacation zone not a landing strip.
What’s your life all about without children? Everything you can think of to do and then more. It’s about discovering or creating something else you’re passionate about that teaches you, inspires you and expands you. It’s a never ending cavalcade of experiences. As a thinker, artist and writer it’s been about making an impact in my little corner of the world.
Contrary to the stereotypical propaganda, not having children can also keep you young. You are the kid in your life, just with heaping responsibilities and the rewards that come with adulthood.
I can’t imagine my life any other way and wouldn’t have it any other way either. It’s been a madcap, non-stop whirl of amazing miracles and evolutionary thrills.
That was before I met Mark and got married, when it was thought a feminist was more likely to be hit by a terrorist than get married in her 40s. What has made it so strong and exhilarating is we’re on this journey together. I’ve married the strongest feminist I know who stands beside me in all I do, as we create our life lived in a perpetual roller coaster of events. He’s a great dad, but that’s his life to manage, not mine in which to interfere. I can hardly wait ’til his kids come visit us in Virginia. What fun that will be!
Every day begins when I ask myself what will I explore or discover today? Then off I go.
I’m grateful I had the guts to say no to kids when I was very young and hold on to that vision all of my life.
When I read about more and more women today putting off motherhood or choosing to forego it entirely, I send them a secret blessing for what is possible in front of them if they choose to stay childfree. A big, messy board of bright colors and life free of being tethered to shepherding anyone’s journey but your own. Loads of hours and days and weeks and months where you have nothing to think about but your own adventure.
If you get really lucky, you’ll find someone who wants to come along and has great ideas of trouble to get into and together you’ll have a madcap blast.
For all you mothers out there, happy Mother’s Day. I hope you’re as blissfully happy with children as I am childfree.
Taylor Marsh, a veteran political analyst and former Huffington Post contributor, is the author of The Hillary Effect, available at Barnes and Noble and on Amazon. Her new-media blogwww.taylormarsh.com covers national politics, women and power.
I quite literally already wrote the book on this one.
Taylor Marsh is the author of The Hillary Effect, which is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble, where it was 1 of only 4 books in their NOOK Featured Authors Selection launch. Marsh is a veteran political analyst and commentator.
Discussing Republicans and whether they have a problem with women.
“Michele Bachmann was the first woman Republican to win a straw poll caucus or primary. She made history,” said Taylor Marsh, political analyst and author of The Hillary Effect, Politics Sexism and the Destiny of Loss.
“There are personal grudges.. (more at link above)
According to the New York Times, Kindle Fire is getting creamed on consumer reviews, so they’re promising “remedies.”
Great news, because my book will be available on Amazon this Thursday.
After my eBook being a Barnes & Noble exclusive (chosen 1 of 4 in their NOOKS First Featured Authors Selection launch), on Dec. 15 it will blast on to Amazon & Apple.
The team on my book, The Hillary Effect, who helped me get it into the wider world is most on my mind this year, especially on Thanksgiving weekend.
So, I thought I’d share the Acknowledgement page with you all today.
Many people skip over this page, but to any author it’s one of the most important pages, a paragraph of it devoted to many of you, including Joyce, Stacy, Art and the other guest bloggers like WonktheVote, but also Dash of Dan.
Every writer should be so blessed as to have a creative tour de force like Judith Proffer in her corner.
Thanks to Hugh Syme who took the cover and made it extraordinary.
…A nod to Spencer Proffer for all he does when someone wants to manifest magic.
I’m grateful to Premier Digital Publishing for knowing the story I was telling could be of interest to a lot of people.
Eric Estrin, my copy editor and fact checker, made a real difference, and I’m grateful to him for it.
Along the way, as I quietly researched and wrote, while continuing my daily political analysis on my site (www.taylormarsh.com), talented bloggers took over on the weekends, giving me some time, unbeknownst to them, to concentrate on excavating this political tale. Now maybe they’ll know how important their contributions have been to me over the two years it took to get this book written and published. As for my readers, I’m forever indebted to them for sticking around in happy times and through rougher ones, but always coming back because they trusted the political analysis I offered. This book is because of them, too.
Lorie Miller, V.P. of Web Services at Agora Net, is the tech guru behind my website who makes it sing. It has been a never-ending retooling enterprise for her, and I’m extremely lucky to have Lorie’s generous patience.
I’ve met a lot of people along my “Hillary Effect” journey and have communicated with even more, from insiders to regular voters — individuals who shared their stories that helped me get the full picture. The outpouring of information and passion that came my way over several years enlightened my efforts and kept me on the trail, reconfirming time and again just how important Hillary Rodham Clinton’s presidential candidacy was to American politics and women’s history.
As for my beloved sister Susie, who forgave my unintended sins that are too numerous to list, as well as my brother Larry, the only father I’ve ever known, they always supported the hell-bent nature of my artistic soul.
But my mother Marjorie made it all possible. The bravest soul I’ll ever know, she stayed alive through grit and heart, because she was determined to send me into the wider world with the same courage she had and a code that came from an abiding faith in something greater than self.
To my blue-collar husband who bet it all to move us to Washington, D.C. after the 2008 election, there just aren’t enough words. He sacrificed a lot, but never stopped knowing I was onto something, even when things turned bleak and got rough. His unending support was my fuel.
So, somewhere between “Countin’ on a Miracle” (by Bruce Springsteen) and beyond “Cost of Livin’” (by Ronnie Dunn), this book manifested and got into your hands.
It’s finally safe to say I have survived the road less traveled, which isn’t for the faint of heart. Actually, I did a lot better than survive and can happily report the view from here is spectacular.
“We can never tell what is in store for us.”
— Harry S. Truman
The big news is at the link.
The Hillary Effect is one of two non-fiction books chosen for Barnes and Noble “First Nook” featured authors program.
It’s such an exciting day!